Can i cancel adoption

Every second, every minute, every single fucking day I wake up I feel I have been living a lie since I was 19 and found everything out.

I would love to talk to you. We are fighting to get a baby back that was unlawfully trafficked through Foster Care in Florida. She will be in your situation when she is your age and know that she was stolen. Have you called your local US Representatives Office locally?

I am not in FL, but I would encourage you to do so. Try and make an appointment and see if they will make an appointment where you can tell the staff member in the office your story, they can open a case for you and perhaps help to get the ball rolling in straitening out your records.

Some of those records are likely State but some are Federal. I just want you to know you have been heard. There has to be hope. So is there a time limit on adoption reversals in Maine? He was coerced by his adopted mother into the adoption. She later emptied his savings account and threw him out of the home. I did my case plan and fought for almost a year when I started feeling very discouraged about everything my mother called me and told me she wanted to help me anyway she could she coerced me into signing over my rights to my daughter and getting my boyfriend at the time her father to sign his over.

She said she was going to fly me to Oregon where she lived and when DCF was out of my life sign my rights back over well….. I wish u the best i hope u can figure ur situation out. I was under the impression that she would go back to her parents but that did not happen. I put my whole life on hold to care for a child that I didnt know but grew to love.

I am now 26 and It seems like I was pressured into adopting her by the state. They gave me a time frame to let them know what I wanted to do as well as told me that If i didnt she would be posted state wide. I was nervous about letting her go to a new home without knowing who she would end up with so I went through with the adoption. I want to reverse my adoption and let her go with a family that is more established and willing. Wow…… your a bit of a twat… should have thought about that b4 adopting the poor child.

We arnt your trash to throw away when your done… you should have dealt with your guilt of not adopting her when the option arose, not after the case. Score you make a comment like that and calling someone out their name because of how they feel.

Try adopting a child whom no matter how much you try to love them and do things to make them happy; disrespects you, lies, steals, run away, and everything against you and does things to purposely hurt you.

Then talk about how somebody should feel. Tell that parent a child is not trash. The adoptive parent is doing from the heart. If the adoptive parent did it for any other reasons we are still not to judge. She was young when she took the child in and probably does not have the support we need to make her feel differently. You are so correct! We adopted a sibling set and the youngest was and still is exactly what you described.

He is know 19 years old and has moved on to bigger things: drugs, mental abuse toward us and continues to perfect his awful ways. We have done everything under the sun to be able to guide him down the right path like his brothers but he continues to make bad choices and we are done saving him and being his punching bag. Does anyone know if its possible to dissolve an adoption of a 19 year old? Thank you in advance!! Bless your heart!

And yes the state does pressure foster parents to adopt. I have seen that first hand. God bless you in your attempt to reverse the adoption. You provided a good home for some years. It is okay to admit that you committed to more than you were ready for. Wow, selfish …. I wonder how people like you are able to sleep at night. I decided to put my now 6 year old child up for adoption to a best friend and her husband 6 years ago.

We all agreed i would be able to see the child whenever I wanted. I was under the impression that this was an open adoption and that their lawyer whom I set them up with knew this.

After it was finalized my so called best friend and husband would no longer let me see or have anything g to do with the child.

I do want to get her back for a lot of reasons. I just want her to have a relationship with her sister so is 7. And also myself. The adoptive parents are now divorced and the adoptive mother does not have custody of the child anymore. Is there anything g I can do to get her back or even get some kind of visitation rights pictures letters or even give her gifts?

My best friend is in that same boat as you. Turns out, she was wrong in sooo many ways! My friend was under the impression that their agreement stated she would get all the updates of how her daughter is doing, would be able to visit them in Arizona often, would be able to video chat and talk to her baby…. The day she gave birth, she got 1 day and night to spend with my baby alone.

The next day, the couple drove up from Arizona she lives in Vegas so it was the main reason for choosing them ; they met her gorgeous daughter and everything was fine for the 2nd and 3rd day, then on the 3rd day; it was time to sign the papers and thing started getting suspicious.

They were going behimd closed doors with not only the agency but also with the lawyer especially after the papers were signed. The next day, she said goodbye to her little one and put her in a van because the couple said they were going to stay in a townhouse in Henderson, NV for a month or 2.

Welp, about a week later; my friend called the couple to ask her if she could visit them in Henderson; she got rejected because they had friends visiting. So she understood and just said okay. Then 3weeks went by since the departure to give them time to settle in and everything and so she asked again, only this time they responded saying they were already back in Arizona so she never got to say goodbye to her baby forreal!

After that, for the first few months, they were really good at keeping their promise to do updates so my friend was happy. This lasted for about a year, then they started only updating every few months with just a couple of pictures. After about a year and a half, my friend texted the couple to see if she could come down to Arizona to spend the weekend with her. You know what they said? Because of the long distance, she couldnt get out to see her and the updates got lesser and lesser.

Every time she asked to video chat, they never responded back. I know this because i was there through it ALL; the crying, the depression, the happy moments, and the confused moment. I witnessed it all!! My husband had just passed and I was a wreck. At first I got to see her, then after it was too late I found they had filed a petition in the legals in the paper looking for me. When they knew exactly where I was. All I want is to be able to see her.

But was the way they adopted her legal? I adopted my brothers 2 daughters in Sometimes he says he going to take me to court and get them back. Can he do that. I gladly took them. From the moment they arrived they were rascals, tearing things up. I was 55 years old at the time. I constantly had trouble with the oldest. We had raging tantrums. We were in family counseling for 8 years. Things continues to escalate with her until last year when she attempted suicide.

She spent some time away and my daughters and I realize our house is happier without her. She badly wants to live with her birth mother, who has lied to her and made her believe I actually stole the girls from her. I fought for her but even after a year she still is not happy.

Is it possible to reverse her adoption quietly without a lot of court proceedings? I would like to keep it as quiet as possible. My mother is about to divorce him so is there anyway I can get my adoption reversed, and if it does what will happen to my life and my name, who gets full custody of me and what will my name change to, what it originally was or what my parents is? This is something you are going to need to discuss in detail with an attorney. Custody matters and adoptions often create a very confusing mix of rules and laws that must be applied.

But, this is all going to vary wildly between the states, so you should connect with and speak with an experienced local attorney asap. I gave up my daughter to adoption when me and the mother got divorced.

My daughter is now 16yrs I gave her up to birthmother and new husband in adoption 8yrs ago. I regret everyday of what I did and I know I did it under a lot of stress from court and mother issues. Now I found my daughter on social media, thankfully she agreed to see me hiding form her mom and step dad. I saw her today my daughter and mom called her immediately over the phone to know why she was taking so long to come back for a little liquor store down the corner from their house, I spend 2mins when mom called her to get home right away.

What can I do to be able to see my daughter? I want to spend time with her she is 16yrs old she loves me and I love her as much and more. Hi I had a baby 5 months ago…. We adopted our son from a woman who adopted him and brought him to the USA from Russia.

That was 10 long years ago he only lived with the first family for 6 weeks and they disrupted the adoption. We adopted him not knowing he had deep issues. We felt sorry for this little 5 year old who needed a family but it has not been an easy go.

He is now 15 lies, steal a lot and the list gets worse and is long. Is there anything we can do to terminate our rights and not be responsible for him any longer? Legally in New York what are our options? And is this an expensive court process? The courts will likely treat this situation not as a reversal of an adoption, but as putting a child up for adoption instead.

Best of luck, we hope that tings work out well for all of you, and remember, when talking about the law in difficult emotion situations like this, sometimes the emotions need to be left at the door to give the case an unbiased look — its not that people are uncaring to your plight, but that the law requires that type of analysis. I was told I have to fill out the legal form to do this, but have not found this form nowhere.

You made to Decision to care for him for 10 years! Just too abandoned him now. Since he getting in trouble, and too hard to handle.

Now here you are 10 years later doing the same thing. When you adopted him you sign up to be his parent through everything. You sign up to be his parent.

Think about the kid you adopted, not yourself. Would you ask a birth parent considering the same dilemma this question? I doubt it. This is not an easy issue and as an adoptive mother, believe me, you are thinking about the childs needs at this point.

Not your own. There is way to much judgment out there…. Shame on the person whom thought judgment was a better way to communicate…than understanding through sympathy and compassion on behalf of the adoptive mom. Because lord knows we see the reactions when you do speak out. People want to be quick to blame the adoptive parent for not being the saint that society weighed on their shoulders to be.

When your old enough to know right from wrong…your old enough to understand that the people who are trying to do right by you…are being damaged by your behavior. Once u adopt, no one will help u. Its UR problem! I once stood in judgement of parents that felt a reversal of the adoption was what was best for the whole family including the child, just like you clearly are.

I pray you will never have to walk in the shoes of a mother that has spent years and years sacrificing everything to keep her daughter that is mentally ill due to unspeakable developmental trauma inflicted upon her by her biological parents prior to removal safe from herself. I pray you will never feel the utter hopelessness when an adaptive mom has to surrender her daughter back to the state because nothing the mom does, no matter how desperately she fights for, or how many professionals that have turned her daughter away as unable to provide services to, will save her, will help her heal, will help keep her safe.

When the adoptive mom has to weigh the safety of the rest of the family from the daughter against the feeling she is a complete failure and desides failing is the best she can offer her daughter. Have you ever heard of R. My husband and I adopted 2 boys in , they have both been diagnosed with R. D child, they lie, cheat, steal and literally tear your heart out.

We have been to every parenting class known to man and the boys have been in and out of institutions all of these years also. May God bless you and good luck to you. I signed the rights to my son away after getting into the limelight of family services and then getting into legal problems of my own. His mother and myself chose to sign away our rights. It turns out that being with me has really help his behavior problems that he was having gotten a lot better.

His grandparents want me to adopt him and have my rights back. I live in Missouri. Is this something that can be done? With them willfully doing this and the fact that it really is a better place for him because he mines and does his school work. He wants to live with me as well and actually he has already been staying with me for a couple of weeks. Any info on what I need to do would be very helpful. U can get ur child medical care, put him in school, everything but sign him into military.

No court needed. The document merely needs to be notarized. Adoptive parents remain in control as they can rescind document whenever they want. But if all are in agreement, who cares? I have 2 daughters that were adopted my my mom and step dad. My youngest daughter was a blackmail to sign over, children n youth took my son and courts said if I sign over my daughter to my parents they would give my son back or they would fight me and tack on aggravated circumstance so I would never have custody of my kids or future kids.

So of course I signed and got my son back. Her father had a 2 year PFA on him due to threatening to kill our daughter to hurt me. He said he would wait till the PFA was up to even see his daughter. So fear of him trying to get her while I was dealing with children n youth and him winning I signed my rights over to my parents and they took his rights, he never even showed up. Well my parents did a PAC agreement so they couldnt just take her away from me.

Well soon as adoption went through everything changed. They treat her like crap. She messages me all the time about hating her life and wanting to die. She tells me how she sees my step dad slamming my mom into the walls. Put her down all the time, and even uses me as a threat. What makes matters worse is for some reason they wont let me get my younger daughter. They let me have my oldest but not youngest. So that little girl everytime I get my oldest stands in the window crying mommy as she watches her brother n sister go with her mommy and shes not aloud.

They are messing that little girl up emotionally with that. I have full custody of my son he lives with me. N he rarely sees his middle sister but sees his older sister every other weekend except summers its every other week. It makes no sense why they would allow one child but not the other….

Is there a chance to get her back and would they take her thought in consideration since she will be 13 soon. Please let me no what you think… thanks. Can a biological father reverse a finalized adoption if he knew nothing about it and takes a paternity test?

This depends entirely on the state. The point is to give the person the opportunity to appear and state their claim or defend themselves.

This is the case in family law matters as well as other types of cases. In family matters, like adoption, child custody, divorce, etc. To have a publication be good enough to constitute service, a person needs to show proof that there was no way to find the person — skip traces from a private eye, facebook searches, etc. It should be almost impossible to find the person for publication to be valid. The problem with adoption and this process, if allowed every state is different, remember , is that a biological parents rights have now been taken away forever through adoption.

During the last months my pregnancy I told my mom that I was expecting. From that point on I received discouragement from her. Is there any way that I can reverse the adoption, or gain back my parental rights.

Hey i have 5 kids im in chicago il i signed my rights due to me going to prison over to their cousin on the father side i was told if i sign my rights over she will let me get my kids and they can come live with me and if i dont my kids are in the stage of being adopted by an unknown family and they will be separated so i did what was best for my kids at that time its been a few years ago i was wondering im Chicago il can i get the adoption reversed.

So when I was 19 I was pregnant, father passed, bouncing from home to home, sleeping around, etc. I even reconnected with a old friend.

We began talking and I was telling him about what I was going through and my adoption and how hard it was for me. He went on to say that he knows the kid I gave up was his. We did have sex often unprotected. He said the time frame add up completely and he has a gut feeling about it.

I thought it was a period, doctors and nurse told me year later that bleeding is completely normal until tissue is passed. I have the real father here blowing up my phone talking about go to court and going to take a paternity test. What can he do? He says he still and will always have right as a biological father.

Can someone help answer because this is stressing and I want to help as much as I can. I found out a month before court I was pregnant with my boyfriends baby. I refused and continued with the petition to take my children back, about 2 days before court his mom caused me to be evicted from my home, ensuring I would be homeless staying with friends at the time of court. His brother told me he would shoot me before I left the courtroom if I won. My daughter whom is now 12 has contacted me via social media privately and has told me that her adopted parents will not get her the correct medical attention for her disorders anxiety, depression, adhd, bipolar etc nor will they take her to the dentist, she needs corrective lenses which they refuse to get for her and they mentally, verbally and emotionally attack and abuse her.

If there is anything I can do to ensure my child is not neglected please let me know. I really just want to bring my child home. Her father lives less than 3 blocks from her and has nothing to do with her. Her brother has a lot of mental issues as well and is being medically neglected. I really need to know if there is anything I can possibly do. This sounds like a tragic situation, and one that is more than a little difficult to overcome.

Being that you signed over adoption papers, it will be difficult for a court to look a the situation and stresses that you were put under so many years ago and determine that coercion took place. As far as attempting to get some kind of visitation with the kids, that is possibly a different scenario altogether and one that should first be explored. As you can imagine, courts do not like a situation where you have had extremely limited time with the kids for years now, and now expect to just have the kids tossed over to you, which is a huge change for the kids and an abrupt change for kids, unless life or serious health issues are on the line and not one that courts generally like to do.

Speak with one of our experienced family law attorneys and see if your state has some remedies available for at least obtaining some initial visitation with the kids and then the possibility of reversing the process.

There are a lot of factors that go into this, and honestly, most of the details you mention possible coercion, threats, etc. Hey so my question is when i was being adopted by a close friend of minds pearnts i was in a lot of distress and felt very pressered. This sounds like all kinds of levels of abuse. Contact our team as well as your caseworker, assuming you still have one that you are in contact with and find out what rights are available.

Here is a list of agencies to contact, depending on your state:. Or being in and out of hospitals. Or in and out of jail. I would rather be in foster homes then leave here. I just want to leave ASAP!! Is there any way u think I can undo it? Especiif a relative or other family seem more freeing to you. Foster homes are nothing like on TV or the news.. If Bio Dad is truly the right fit then go for it but you have to look outside your teenage brain further into adulthood to really see if he is.

Sometimes people seem like the right fit when you you only see the good parts. As an adult you see the shitty parts as the parts you appreciate. Being hard on you, making you complete your sport, not letting you always run with friends. Later you will learn to respect those things.

Really think long and hard before you pull the trigger. By a once 16 years old teenager that was molested by a foster dad and mind fucked and eventually molested by foster mother.

While protecting an 8 year old brother 8n same home. It is what it is. Is there a way to have the adoption reversed? My friend adopted his wife grandkids to use his GI Bill only during there marriage. The grandchildren they adopted still live with there mom and she takes care of them. What should he do? Me and my little sister were placed into foster care when I was 10 years of age. We were split up and she was adopted when I turned I am older and more financially stable since being married is there anything I can do or anyway I can reverse the adoption?

I adopted my nephew last year and everything was going great until I was diagnosed with yet another medical illness and it began to take its toll on my body. He requires a lot of attention as his aggression progress. I do have two other children but their father help me with them.

The oldest is 7 and we have had her since she was 2. She had some behavioral issues when she came to us cursing, hitting we thought she would outgrow some but no she lies and steals. She told lies on myself and my partner to the school and CPS came out. She has told the school that we hit her and beat her and both times the CPS worker saw no bruises or anything.

Then she lies and said she never told teachers that. My fiances 5 children were taken from her a few years ago. Her ex husband left while she was asleep and they got on a roof cos took them. She since had a new baby cyf cos was involved and confirmed she is fit to raise the child. The system was messed up earlier with the 5 children and stole them from her.

The pain is everyday of missing them. It is not fair it is not right. Is there any possible way to get these children where they belong. I will fight to the end to do all i can as they need to be back in the arms of their mother.

All the court hearings and everything were messed up as they fired a woman that said she was definitely fit to keep her children. I was talked into signing papers with my soon to be ex wife to adopt her cousins child when my soon to be wx wifes biological mother passed away while taking care of the child. The marriage went sour over the years. She then put me out of her apartment and expected me to pay bills for her and myself because she refused to find employment for years and spends his social security checks on things not pertaining to the childs needs.

How can I terminate my parental rights to and adopted child. Depending on the state, this may not be an option. The courts, many times, view your relationship with this child in virtually the same manner as if it was your biological child. The more pressing matter here is getting things in order to limit the amount of maintenance ie. A lot of different things go into calculating this depending on where you live.

The present and future earning capacity of each party; 3. The needs of each party; 4. Are there any impairments in the present or future earning of either party; 5. The standard of living during the marriage; 6. The duration of the marriage; 7. The health, age, occupation, education, skills, etc.

Other factors the Court finds relevant, just, and equitable under the specific circumstances of the case. All of these factors need to be applied to your case to view your particular situation here. And if there is a way that you can help her stand on her own, that can alter things substantially as well because if she gets a decent job maybe with help from you even , that can limit or cut off potential maintenance alimony since she may be self-sufficient.

The only way to really dig into this is to sit down with an experienced divorce attorney and look at all the facts and circumstances of your case. Give our team a call. I lost my parental rights in in Michigan due to a domestic violence incident! My children were adopted in ! Is there still a chance for me to try to overturn this adoption? He adopted my son. He is wanting to relinquish his rights to not pay child support.

Can he do this?? I have 4 adopted daughters. One of them is violent and it has become very unsafe for my other 3 children. Almost 3 yrs of counseling and medication and she is unable to bond with our family. She is currently inpatient due to threats against her sisters, is it possible to get our adoption of her reversed in order to protect the other children? These situations are some of the most difficult in the world.

Each state differs on these issues in a pretty dramatic way. Probably an unlikely scenario, but the crazies of situations occur and no one ever sees it coming.

You need to connect with a local attorney who can dig in to the details of your case and the local statutes. Best of luck for your family. So I lost custody of my baby girl at birth, 3 years ago..

I signed papers saying I would allow them to adopt my child, it hasnt been finalized in court YET!! Baby daddy all of a sudden decides he wants the baby and is fighting for custody. Hes never been around for her, helped with her, or tried to have a relationship with her the entire 3 yrs shes. Help me plz I made a big mistake.

She doesnt even know him!? Any info will help. There really is no way around it. If the father has known all along about this child and has avoided all responsibility intentionally, that will be one of the deciding factors. But you need professional help here, you cannot do this alone. Cps is now trying to force my termination of parents rights, they told my sister shed have to adopt them. If my sister were to adopt them can she give them back to me or allow me to adopt them back from her once I finally become stable again.

Cps has made me lose my job and a place due to it and my own PD waived my right to council at a team meeting without my permission and no lawyer wants to touch this case and I need help asap or advice. I would be extremely cautious about doing something with the kids if your sister is granted the adoption over them. Many times there will be explicit provisions that her rights could be terminated and reversed if she allows the children to spend time with a person in this case, you , that is specifically not allowed to have contact with the kids.

It is unlikely that a court would ever grant a reversal simply because the adoptive parents wish to be relieved from their responsibilities as parents. An adopted child may wish to reverse an adoption if they are seeking emancipation from their adopted parents, or if they wish to contact their birth parents but the terms of their adoption stipulate that they may not. Most commonly, an adopted child wishes to reverse the adoption due to a failing relationship with their adoptive parents.

In some cases, the child has found a suitable replacement for themselves and the adoption process may begin again. This would remove the old adoption of all legal power. As mentioned above, states do not allow adoptive parents to simply return the child to the adoption agency or their birth parents.

This is true regardless of where the child was adopted from, whether that be national or international. Once again, in cases where the adoptive parents are unable to properly care for the child, a court may allow the adoptive parent s to terminate their parental rights if there is another prospective adoptive family lined up. Additionally, a court may allow the adoptive parent s to modify their original court order granting the adoption to allow for another party to be granted custody of the adoptive child.

Once again, once an adoption is final, that child is treated the same as a biological child of the adoptive parents. Similar to normal parents, it is important that adoptive parents make arrangements for their adoptive child to ensure that they are cared for in case they become incapacitated or die. Thus it is important that adoptive parents conduct estate planning, including drafting a will or crafting a guardianship for the child in case they become incapacitated or die.

Additionally, some states do have adoption assistance programs that continue to provide assistance to adoptive children after their adoptive parents become incapacitated or die. Therefore, as an adoptive parent, it is important to include such language in your will.

An adoption lawyer will be essential for any part of the adoption process. It is imperative to remember that reversing an adoption will likely be impossible simply because the adoptive parents regret their decision to adopt the child. An experienced adoption lawyer can help you build a case on this standard, and guide you through the adoption and adoption reversal process. Additionally, an attorney can file any necessary legal paperwork on your behalf, as well as represent you in court as needed.

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